5 tips to bring a positive change in your relationship

Kaajal Gunputh Nov 8, 2018 859 0

5 tips to bring a positive change in your relationship

You love your partner and you have no doubt on that but sometimes you make mistakes that hurt him/her. Those mistakes might be from patterns similar to what you have been seeing in your family and are unintentional. Sometimes you simply become insensitive due to fatigue or carelessness. Regardless of the reasons for these behaviours, you know your relationship is important to you and you are keen to do things differently, well, you are off to an excellent start.

Probably, you have been the way you are for a long time. Though our personalities are set, the meaning we attach to external events and behaviours are workable. The choices we make in how we show up in the world, how we treat ourselves and behave towards others specially those we care about are all changeable. While it seems daunting, the pay-off will clear all your doubts when you see a priceless, secure form of your relationship.

Here are the 5 tips for bringing a positive change in your marriage or relationship.

Learn to communicate efficiently
Educate yourself about this topic as good communication with your partner is a life-long skill and you need to be good at it. It’s essential that you communicate with kindness and sensitivity to one another. Yes, people argue and conflict is part of all relationships at some point of time, but the key is to be able to come out of those situations without harming each other and mostly without causing harm to the relationship. Build up of resentment can be very unhealthy for your relationship. So communicate properly to prevent any kind of resentment later on.
Own up
Owning it up means taking responsibility for your actions and validating the emotional situation of your partner. Sometimes people almost get there but negate much of it following up with excuses. When you owned up, make sure to follow up with a heartfelt and genuine apology about hurting your partner intentionally or unintentionally. It can feel vulnerable to open yourself up in this way, but it is an important part of the process and it helps you mature in a certain way and helps strengthen your bond.
Understand the problem
Scan yourself honestly, notice the behaviours which are problematic in the relationship.Analyse why did it happened. Maybe your action was a result of your anger or frustration. Maybe you grew up seeing certain things and end up reproducing it when similar situations crop up. The more you understand yourself and admit it, the better you will be able to create lasting changes in yourself in order to protect and strengthen your relationship.
Change your mindset
This is less intimidating that it sounds. By establishing new habits, you can eventually change your mindset and the way your brain reacts to situations. It takes a lot of time but if you identify specific behaviours which you want to do more or less and you practice it, it pays off really well. Tell your partner which part are you working on, and you shall notice that he/she will be more compassionate and sensitive towards it and shall appreciate all your efforts. Together you can bond again.
Give yourself a break
While making all these positive changes, the likelihood to make mistakes is more. Remember to be patient, humans are flawed and you are no exception. If your intentions are right, put in your efforts and with your partner by your side, you are on the right path and you will surely see the results. I would personally suggest you that if you feel you want to try these 5 tips for your relationship, discuss it with your partner and do it together as a couple, you will see faster results and you will also enjoy the practice. Do not allow yourself to be stuck in the “failure” of your efforts, keep trying. Do not give up. If you are finding this much more difficult, then try seeing a therapist, who can counsel you both and ignite back the fire in your relationship.

“Hold my hand, stand by me and together we shall conquer the world!” ~ Kaajal Gunputh

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Kaajal Gunputh

Kaajal Gunputh is a pharmacist by trade and eco-feminist by passion. As the founder of Let Her Rise, she is at the forefront of the fight for female rights & actively works for women equality and challenges the domestic abuse of women from all continents. Born at the multi-cultural Island, Mauritius, Kaajal has a unique and open-minded view on gender issues. She has founded Let Her Rise to make people aware of inequality & injustice happening against women while also providing lifestyle, health & career related advice to those in need with the ultimate aim to make women & children rise.

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