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Last time, I was having a discussion regarding a sexual molestation case with a group of friends when suddenly one of them said “The girl is obviously stupid, why she went out with him alone?” I was there, completely stunned by her words. She was questioning why a girl went out with her friend whom she has known over three years now; alone for a dinner. After her statement, I started questioning myself as to why a privileged, educated and mature 24 year old female would blame the victim and try justifying an act of rape.
Later on, I realized that maybe it is not solely her fault. We have been raised in a society where sexual violence is no longer a big deal and rapes and molestation cases are being excused and normalized by both the society and the media to some extent. Our society is responsible for a ‘rape culture’ where women are taught to avoid getting raped instead of men being taught not to rape. This is disgraceful and we all should be outraged by it.
Yes, I definitely agree with you that men are also vulnerable to sexual abuse, but for this particular moment, I am focusing on sexual abuses faced by women. Victims are often seen just as guilty as the abusers or in some cases even more guilty.
But the fact remains that sexual assault is never the victim’s fault. No one is out there seeking to be raped.
If the abuser would have missed one particular victim, he would have definitely got another one or maybe get the same victim on another occasion. Sexual assault is a violent attack on an individual not an act of sexual passion, and no one asks for or deserves this type of attack.
Blaming the victim not only has social and mental implications but it also makes it harder for other victims to come forward and report their assaults. Sometimes, family and friends also choose to blame the victim. If you ever find yourself in a situation where you are blaming the victim, I want you to remember that while blaming the victim, you are supporting the perpetrators of this horrific act!
Any sexual activity without consent can be labeled as rape and sexual molestation. Rapes within relationships are extremely common and in this case, victim blaming is more frequent. According to a survey, between 10-14% of married women will be raped at some point during their married life. One common thought or excuse given to it is usually “she must have done something wrong for him to behave this way.” We are living in a society where a husband or boyfriend has the right to do anything and even though times are changing, women are now more educated and aware of their rights, but the habit of living in such a society is still prevailing, and we tend to let go of injustices being faced in a relationship.
What can we all do to help end the ‘rape culture’?
First and foremost: Never make assumptions
Always take a rape or sexual molestation accusation seriously
If someone opens up to you, support them to come forward
Speak up when women are being objectified
Stop asking what was the victim wearing or whether she was drunk
Bring a conversation regarding the topic on the table with the women of your life.
We need your help to eliminate the belief that these conversations are too uncomfortable. Share it with your friends and speak up along with us.
Kaajal Gunputh is a pharmacist by trade and eco-feminist by passion. As the founder of Let Her Rise, she is at the forefront of the fight for female rights & actively works for women equality and challenges the domestic abuse of women from all continents. Born at the multi-cultural Island, Mauritius, Kaajal has a unique and open-minded view on gender issues. She has founded Let Her Rise to make people aware of inequality & injustice happening against women while also providing lifestyle, health & career related advice to those in need with the ultimate aim to make women & children rise.
Awakening hope and significance in women who have been wounded by abuse, inequality, exploitation and poverty; to grow well or luxuriantly; thrive; to do or fare well, prosper; to make bold sweeping movements and eventually RISE!
Let Her Rise is a platform aiming to help & support women of all ages across different continents to overcome their limiting beliefs, discover unique gifts and skills, no matter what their past story has been or the present circumstances are; Redefining womanhood and empowering women to live to their fullest potential in peace and bliss!
Kaajal Gunputh
Jan 14, 2019
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